to our move.
This page is designed to let people know reactions they can expect form people when they
tell them they are going, some are positive and others are negative, we will also talk about
how we coped with them.
There are 2 ways the news can go, good or bad, because it's so significant and such a massive
move we didn't find anybody who didn't have a view or didn't pass comment. Some people are
really supportive, and can understand why you want to make the move even though they may
not want to do it themsleves. Whereas there are the other party who cannot see why you're
doing it at all. Whether they love where they live and can't understand why you would want to
leave, or else they may just not want you to go, it's a very hard situation.
The way we saw it was that with the latter you can't win, it's important to allow them there
opinion but then you have to try and not let it get to you. This is really hard and in some
instances we had to switch off, because it is such a massive step you have to stay focused on
what you're doing and why you're doing it.
This may make us sound selfish, but that isn't a negative thing. If you are doing something to
improve your life and that of your family then selfishness is a good thing, you have to put
yourselves first. Otherwise you may live a life full of regrets.
There were lots of tears, but there was also a lot of positivity sent with us, people do
understand why, they may just not show it and that's ok, everybody is different. We live our
life our way and they live their life their way.
My initial thought was what a wonderful opportunity for you all to have a better
An outdoor life, with more reliable weather, a lower cost of living and with it
hopefully less pressure and stress and more quality of life. It’s a young
country, very aware of the environment and seems to offer a good future for you
as a family and especially for Josh growing up there. They seem to have less of
the social problems the England has just now.
On the downside I realised that the distance and cost of travel would mean very
little physical contact and missing taking some part in Josh growing up and
seeing him run to his nana. Also because you were more than just a daughter I
would miss our closeness and the hugs and instant support when needed. But the
benefits for you outweigh the personal disadvantages. I know you’re still
there, just a bit further away and it will make it very exciting every time we
get the chance to visit each other.
Luckily, with modern technology we can email, speak on the phone, send photos
over the internet or on discs and keep in touch easily. I may even have web cam
facilities one day. (Pam McEvilly, Bulgaria).